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Do not waste your precious time chasing people

Do not waste your precious time chasing people who are not interested in being a part of your life. The people you choose to surround yourself with should appreciate, value, nourish, and support you. And you should do the same for them. In Joel Osteen's book Every Day a Friday, he shares some interesting statistics:

  • 25% of the people you meet will not like you
  • 25% of the people you meet will not like you but could be persuaded to
  • 25% of the people you meet will like you but could be persuaded not to
  • 25% of the people you meet will like you and stand by you no matter what

Find the people who like you and will stand by you no matter what. And when it comes to true friends, focus on quality not quantity.

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It is also important to realize that those statistics go both ways. You are not going to like everyone and everyone is not going to like you. You do not have to accept everyone and everyone does not have to accept you. Any anxiety related to rejection or acceptance is taken away once you realize that YOU also have the right to reject and accept.

Think about it, you respectfully reject and accept every day without even knowing it. You may meet someone, politely talk for a while, say goodbye, and then never see that person again without even giving it a second thought. Or you may meet someone and strike up a great conversation. You may think to yourself, "we have a lot in common" or  "I'd like to get to know this person better" so you ask for their phone number in hopes of a new friendship or relationship.

There will be times in life when another person does not value you. They may make you feel like YOU are the lucky one to be in a friendship or relationship with them. Or they may make you feel like you have to take a number or get in line to spend time with them because they are too busy. Or they may be constantly watching their watch while you are with them because they have their mind on being somewhere else. These types of friendships and relationships will most likely fade away especially if you are the only one making all of the effort. Don't waste your time pursuing people who don't mutually respect or appreciate you.

In other cases, people may reject you from the very start or reject you after getting to know you. As painful as that may be, remember you also have every right to reject someone who you don't feel connected to. Don't ever let anyone make you feel any less about yourself. Just because they reject you doesn't mean that you don't have anything to offer. Look at it as "it's their loss" NOT "it's my loss." You deserve people in your life who love and respect you.

Make the intention to be the kind of person you want to meet or the friend you'd like to have. Be kind and respectful. Love and value yourself. Truly believe you have something amazing to offer. If you've suffered the pain of rejection in the past, let it go, don't focus on that. Don't be afraid of rejection, don't fight for approval, don't beg for acceptance. Just go out there and be yourself. KNOW that people who celebrate you WILL come into your life. And be there with an open heart to receive them!

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Comment by Shyam Chhawchharia on April 14, 2013 at 1:33am

The problem is never the world...I care a damn for is the people who I care for most cause the greatest hurt and unfortunately i cannot wish them away from my life....the best thing to do is wish my life away

Comment by J on April 12, 2013 at 1:33pm

Thank you so much Samuel! Blessings ~J

Comment by Samuel S A on April 12, 2013 at 11:18am


I've shared your post on my Facebook Fan Page.

Thanks for Posting.

Comment by J on April 9, 2013 at 12:29pm

Hi Raymond, I am so glad you found my blog. It was a weakness of mine too and still is at times. Live your life with integrity and don’t worry about what others say. I’ve always loved the saying “what you say about me is none of my business!” Check out my other blog post "Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." 

I think you'll like it! Blessings ~J

Comment by Raymond Hamilton on April 9, 2013 at 10:57am

I found your blog to be very insightful thank you for sharing. One of my major weakness is that I spend to much time caring what other people think about me. After reading your blog I am going to change this.

Comment by J on April 8, 2013 at 5:59pm

Very true Mimi! Thanks for your comment! Blessings ~ J

Comment by Mimi Dean on April 8, 2013 at 5:50pm

Very nice! We shouldn't feel rejected if someone doesn't have time or attention for us--it doesn't mean we were found lacking. They may just be busy, distracted etc. And so are each of us at times.

Comment by J on April 8, 2013 at 2:33pm

Hi Isabelle, thank you for taking the time to comment! Once I let go of people who I felt like I was chasing, genuine friends came into my life! Blessings ~J

Comment by J on April 8, 2013 at 2:28pm

Thank you Philippe for your message. I am glad you liked the post! Blessings ~J

Comment by Isabelle Esling on April 8, 2013 at 2:28pm

great post and yes i agree...the ones who are on my side will walk with me:) never ever force friendship or any relationship...

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