Inspiring and Empowering Positive People
…I’m fat, I shouldn’t have had that last piece of cake.
…I sounded so stupid in that work meeting, I should have just kept my mouth shut!
…I look like a huge cow today. I am disgusting.
…No wonder I can’t find a job, I’m incompetent and dumb.
…I suck; I am destined for failure.
Do the thoughts above ring a bell to you? Do you beat yourself up, each and every day, with negative, self-destructive words? If so, you aren’t alone. While this way of thinking is obviously unhealthy (it leads to low self-esteem, low self-worth), it’s natural for a large majority of us – which is somewhat frightening. Negative thoughts about ourselves stem from that inner-critic inside of us; that insecure voice in our heads that tells us we aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, wealthy enough, skinny enough, or that we simply aren’t enough in general.
While we can’t simply snap our fingers and silence our inner-critic’s attacks, we can make a conscious effort to think positive and constructive thoughts thereafter. Anytime a negative thought about yourself seeps out of your mind, immediately combat it with a thought that benefits your well-being and self-love. To help you practice this thought-replacement exercise, I suggest that you make a two-column list list, like the one pictured below, and keep it tucked safely inside your wallet or handbag. Whenever you think a negative, discouraging thought, take a moment to jot it down in the first column and then correct it with a more productive thought in the second column. I do this frequently, and it has helped me to not only recognize my negative thoughts, but to transform them into positive affirmations, allowing me to feel happier and more secure in my own skin.
Would you want your friends or loved ones to call you hurtful names or say rude, negative remarks to you? If not, try not to talk down to yourself either – being unkind to yourself is extremely damaging and harmful your self-love. Every day, work towards talking more positively to yourself and to others. Encourage yourself to reach your biggest goals and dreams, forgive yourself when you make a mistake, compliment yourself frequently, and most importantly, believe that you are enough just as you are.
Make a conscious effort to stop beating yourself up for no good reason and start talking to yourself as you’d like others to talk to you. Choose to be your own best friend, not your own worst enemy. Life is much happier that way.
Happy being my own bff,