Inspiring and Empowering Positive People
Paula Gi,I know (after about forty years) just how much stress You are under.My G.P.put Me on medication to help,and it did.But it did not solve My problem,only helped Me deal with it.Unfortunly it is very difficult to alter a Person,s view,and I can only pass on My way of dealing with it.And that is as follows.Explain that to be Good at what You do,You must enjoy doing it.That hate will not effect the Person or thing that is being hated,it will only effect the Person that is doing the hating.That is nice to be nice.That most People Who have a positive outlook on life,have more Friends than Those Who don,t.(and as you get on in life,You will need Friends)I can assure You,a Dementia Ward is not a place You want to visit.Hope My contrbution is of some help.Bill.
Thank you so much to take the time to reply on this!! It sure helps!! One thing you said I think might hide a treasure key for many things in life: "Hate will not effect the person or thing being hated, it will only effect the person that is doing the hating". I think that might be the same for any emotion... We should rather focus on what is inside of us, not what is outside. Well, I will sure think about it!! Thank you Bill, I appreciate it! =)=)=)
Paula,You are on the way,keep chin up and look the World in the Eye,You will make it.Bill
I am also living with a negative person who is never here, doesn't communicate, participate nor co-operate and share. After 15 years I am beginning to realise it is not me! My confidence has been knocked but I intend getting back up again. So I have huge empathy for you.
Beth Patric.I just read Your letter to Paula and I would like,(if I may) add a little bit to it.It refers to My Own situation,and I am ashamed to admit it is not very nice.I was Married to a Wonderful and Loving Wife,and We were blessed with Seven,healthy Beautiful Children.Times were tough and I was a Young Fool,and walked out on Her and the Children.I lived for almost Forty Years with that guilt which can be discribed as 'Bulimic'.My ex Wife Who has a Love and Nature,which has no equal,lived thru those Years,raising seven children,enduring,hardships,FAMILY criticism, lonlyness,and the Death of Our eldest Son.We have started meeting again and as is Her Nature,She never lost nor did her Love diminish,She has forgiven Me.The moral behind this admission,is Women suffer more than Men,but are stronger in any situation.if You wish to see more,I am on facebook as,William Roche.
thank you William! Im happy you had the chance to see and try to fix it! Hope you're doing great =)=)=)
Wow William, that is amazing and wonderful that you are now meeting up again. Thank you for your input :)
Just goes to show that Love can prevail! Thank you for your story, it's an inspiration and she sounds like an Angel on earth! :)
Thank you Beth! =)
You are welcome and let's hope we can support each other through this.
I went through this very thing recently. I had taken on a job with a friend as her live-in nanny and she begged me to move in. I left my job, my life in another state and took my son away from everything he knew to be a stay at home mom for him and a nanny for her kids. the first day i got there i knew things were amiss and she began mistreating me and my son severely. Her energy was like a porcupine with its quills dipped in poison. I dreaded having to go upstairs to eat in the kitchen or use the bathroom. She then went back on her original agreement of payment and began paying me nothing to watch her kids, make her meals and clean her house. I was doing two more jobs than a nanny and she was supposed to be my friend but she never once asked me "how are you?" or talked to me. SO, i know EXACTLY how you feel when you say moving isnt an option. i was stuck with this curmudgeon for two 1/2 months until i formed a means of escape to relieve us from this trauma. I was literally having chest pains. I took my crystals my quartz and would meditate while holding it over my heart. I repeated mantras like "I have a new home that's peaceful and I am safe and so is my son." I spoke my mantras as if what i was asking for had already manifested. I stayed as positive as possible given the circumstances. you hang in there and remove them from your life as soon as you are able. God bless you.
Thank you Reesa, I hope you find somewhere else. Living with people is not easy, we see things that are ok if you are in another place but can kill you if you are around 24-7. Its like they try to switch your energy all the time, without even knowing it. Good luck!